For everyone, the consensus seems to be we’re glad we did it.
For others, the changes were minor and simple. Porn had been negatively affecting our sex lives.įor some it was a major shift and very difficult.
Most of us made it through the 60 days unscathed and true believers. We all kept logs on the thread and it turned out to be a raging success. Late last year, the “no more porn” stuff really caught fire on the forum here, and a number of guys (myself included), hopped on the bandwagon in this thread and agreed to not look at porn for 60 days. But I had never considered keeping it or making it a permanent habit in my life. I had done it on and off in the past whenever I needed a kick in the ass and it worked for me. The goal of the “diet” was to revitalize and motivate guys who had trouble being motivated enough to pursue women in the face of their anxiety. It involved eliminating porn and limiting masturbation to 1-2 times per week. In my book on attracting women, I shared something I referred to as the “masturbation diet” in my chapter about motivation. If you’ve ever gotten an otherwise beautiful girl naked in your bed and been unable to ignore the tiny blemishes or asymmetries to the point where you have trouble getting turned on, then you know what I mean.Īnd worst of all, the younger you were when you began watching porn, the worse the effects generally are. Not to mention it completely skews your perception of what beauty is and gives you unreasonable standards for sex with the women you meet. The result is that not only does it limit your ability to become aroused at all, but also can limit your dopamine receptors in general, causing you to become more anxious, less social, and possibly even depressed. But sadly, for many of us, over the years we devolve into darker and more twisted porn habits. The mere image of a beautiful naked woman was probably enough for you. Think back to the first time you watched porn.
In rare cases it can be debilitating in both.Ĭhances are you’re not a porn addict, but if you’re a man under the age of 35, I imagine that the abundant access to porn has affected you more than you think. In some cases, men can develop a psychological addiction to pornography and it can begin to interfere with their sex and social lives. Thus begins the spiral into more hardcore porn and higher quantities of it. After a while, our brains become desensitized and develop a need for higher and higher stimuli in order to reach the same arousal and excitement. A recent survey by Esquire showed 43% of men reported difficulty getting or maintaining an erection at least some of the time, with 24% reporting that they had difficulty “more often than I’d like to admit.”Īccording to the science, porn trains our brains to release more endorphins than is natural in response to an overload of sexual stimuli. It caught my attention because not only had I struggled with sexual anxiety and had bouts of inability to perform in the past, but being a dating coach, I had talked to a lot of men who struggled with the same issues, men often in their 20′s and 30′s.
Then some time last year I stumbled across this video. I found it interesting, but never gave it too much thought after that. A couple years ago, I stumbled across some research and articles about the pornography and the negative effects it could be having on men and their sex lives.
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